Thursday December 20, 2001 at 05:42 pm

A funny thing happened to me the other night, I completely confirmed the theory in my small world at least that women would rather be with a man whom treats her like crap than a man that would treat her with respect and dignity. A friend of mine just told me that she was divorced from her over jealous boyfriend, all to me hooked up with a some other guy who’s in jail for break probation or something. So I’m sitting there telling her, “Damn maybe you should think about dating other guys outside of the normal hangout or wherever you hook up with them at.”. Her response was “I have I’m seeing this really cool girl”. Now granted that’s an extreme case, but take my other friend who is constantly being treated like crap by these little grunge head band members, and as long as I’ve known her, not a single one of them as resulted in any type of real significant relationship. Well of course not from my observation, and from what she’s told me after they’ve broken up or just gone away, she has agreed.

Her reasoning, every kewl guy she knows, she’s just friends with, and once she friends with them, that’s where they stay. I called her on this one day after she told me of another failed attempt with a band member, and I asked her “Do you think you should be friends with someone and have some sort of history of someone before, you peruse a relationship with them”. Her answer of course was yes. So I then proceed to ask a few more round about question proving my theory before I asked the real question which by this time I already had the honest answer to, but of course it would take a miracle for her to realize it. So finally I tell her”if all the guys are kewl for all your girlfriends and your sick and tired of being treated like crap or not being able to find a good man out of where your looking, why not try having a relationship with some you already know and trust”. Her answer, “Because their on my friends list and I can’t do that”.

Now lets look at the logical structure of her answer her, wait there isn’t one. Kidding, seriously though, it really doesn’t hold any real justification or value, she had already answered yes to wanting to be with someone she could trust, respected her and she respected him. she wanted someone that was a friend first and foremost and not just some person there. Obviously finding these types of things in a complete stranger is near impossible, since all them take time to build up to being a solid foundation.Now I don’t mean, she just nodded yes, she was ecstatic about her agreement with those values, as were all her girlfriends that were standing around as we held this conversation. The big kicker was not that she agreed, but that she acknowledged the fact that every single guy “friend” she knew ha the qualities. Yet she absolutely refused to fathom having any real relationship with them.

Okay so here’s the deal, why is that women want bad boys, over good men?

Ladies if you have the guts, leave a comment, and answer the question to the modern day and age.